question about freedom

Hi all,

 

I consciously do not force my kids to do things of my interest.

I allow her to explore whatever she is interested in.

I also realise the importance of giving her respect and choices and love.

 

But when it comes to issues like keeping things back in it place after playing,

she is least interested in it.

I fail to motivate her to do it because she doesnt want to do it..

Whatever I do or say, she wont do it.

Even if I force her, she will do it just once when I am there.

And by forcing her, obviously I am not giving her freedom, not I am giving too much of respect.

But in these situations , I fail to put my learnings to use.

 

Though I want to give her freedom, I dont want to give her freeom to do things just like that as per her wish. For somecases I dont feel like giving her freedom....................

 

Am i putting her self-esteem down by forcing it ? Can I motivate her to do things whihc she is not interested in doing ?